i hate when people say “hi” and then wait.
just write the thing. the question won’t become less annoying because you made me answer a greeting first. now it’s two interruptions instead of one. first i stop what i’m doing to reply, then i stop again when the actual thing comes. it’s like knocking on the door, waiting for me to open it, and then saying “can i knock?”
i hate when people confuse being direct with being rude.
a clear sentence is not an attack. “this doesn’t work” is not violence. “what’s the source?” is not paranoia. some people are so used to soft language that anything clear sounds aggressive to them. i get it, but i don’t want to spend half my life putting pillows around normal sentences.
i hate people who treat being late like weather.
as if it just happened. as if nobody caused it. as if time is some natural disaster and they were simply caught in it. five minutes is normal. forty minutes is a choice. and somehow the person waiting is expected to stay relaxed, because being annoyed makes them “too serious.”
i hate when something is almost right.
a meal with the right idea but no salt. a playlist where every song is close to the mood but not quite there. a sentence that says the thing but still feels dead. fully bad things are easier. you can reject them and move on. almost right things are worse because they make you want to fix them.
but the annoying part is, i know this says as much about me as it does about anyone else.
i hate wasted time because i’m bad at not caring when my time is wasted.
i hate things that make life feel less honest than it already is.
not imperfect things. not messy things. not emotional things. those are fine. sometimes they are the best part.
i hate the small, acceptable ways people avoid being clear.